Are you the best versions of yourself?
How about when stressed?
You’re successful on the outside but under the surface, something’s off. You feel stuck in cycles of people-pleasing, anxiety, or emotional burnout.
Sound familiar?
You might be stuck in an old core survival pattern, a subconscious way of thinking or reacting that you developed in early childhood to feel safe or accepted. These core patterns once served a purpose, but now they’re likely keeping you small, stuck, and unfulfilled.
And here’s the truth: there’s nothing to be ashamed of!
Everyone has a core survival pattern.
This is how the human nervous system adapts.
As a Core Pattern Coach,
I specialize in helping you identify these hidden patterns, understand where they came from, and give you real, practical tools to shift them to healthier positive core patterns for good.
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This is not surface-level mindset work.
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This is deep, rewiring, hands-on coaching.
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This is mental and emotional strength training for your life.
It is my honor to work alongside another - to be their guide on their journey.
I offer 1:1 coaching sessions through video call or in-person.
If you are interested in rewiring your mind and changing your core patterns that do not serve you well, by learning tools that will help reshape your nervous system and create new healthier core patterns - I’m offering a free 60-minute session to help you begin.
Here is my journey to self discovery.
I look forward to meeting you and being a part of your Inner Growth - Lasting Results. The most priceless gift you can give yourself and others is to be resourced and grounded in your own self love!
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What is Core Pattern Coaching?Core Pattern Coaching helps you identify automatic responses like people-pleasing, perfectionism, or shutting down that started in childhood as ways to stay safe. They’re built into your nervous system - which we call 'core pattern'. The goal is to help you recognize when those patterns take over and teach your system a new way to respond without overwhelm, guilt, or overthinking. It’s practical, structured, and based on how your body and brain learned to cope. This isn’t talk therapy. It’s a coaching process focused on awareness, pattern interruption, and nervous system re-training.
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How do I know if I have a survival pattern?Everyone has 1–2 dominant patterns running under the surface. You might have one if: • You overthink small things • You avoid conflict but feel resentful • You shut down emotionally under stress • You overwork or overgive, then burn out These aren’t personality traits, they’re protective responses. If you feel like you’re repeating the same emotional loop, it’s probably a pattern. 👉 Take Tara’s free quiz on the homepage to see which one you run most.
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How is this different from therapy?Therapy focuses on healing past wounds. Core Pattern Coaching focuses on how your current habits emotional, mental, and physical are shaped by old survival responses. Instead of analyzing your story, we focus on: • What triggers your pattern now • What your body does in response (shut down, speed up, etc.) • How to shift it in real time using awareness and body-based tools This is forward-focused work. It’s for people who’ve done personal growth work but still feel stuck in the same reactions.
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What happens in a coaching session?Each session is one-on-one via Zoom or in-person. Tara will help you: • Identify the pattern that’s running (without judgment) • Notice how it shows up in your thoughts, emotions, and body • Use science-back nervous system tools, and coaching to create a shift You won’t just talk, you’ll practice new responses and learn how to stay calm, clear, and grounded when your pattern normally takes over.
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Can this help with anxiety, overthinking, or burnout?Yes, because those are often symptoms of deeper survival patterns. For example: • Overthinking is often a control strategy • Burnout can come from perfectionism or people-pleasing • Anxiety often shows up when your nervous system is stuck in fight-or-flight We don’t chase symptoms. We teach your system a new default setting—so those symptoms start to fade on their own.
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Who is Core Pattern Coaching for and not for?This work is for people who are self-aware and ready for change. Most clients have already done some therapy, self-help, or coaching but still feel stuck in the same emotional loops. You don’t need to have a big trauma history. You just need to be curious about why you keep reacting the same way and willing to try something new. It’s not a fit if you’re in crisis or need clinical mental health care. This is coaching, not therapy. It works best when you’re stable but want to go deeper.
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Do you offer packages or just single sessions?Both. You can start with a single session to test it out or commit to a multi-session package for deeper support. Packages offer consistent momentum, which makes the work more effective. They also include messaging support between sessions for when your pattern shows up in real life.
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What’s the best way to get started?1. Take the free quiz on the homepage to learn your pattern. 2. Book a free consult with Tara (Zoom or in-person – Mission Hills neighborhood, free parking). 3. Text Tara at (619) 931 8987 to schedule or ask a quick question. You can also follow and connect: 📺 YouTube 📘 Facebook Business Page
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Do you offer payment plans?Yes, I am flexible with payment options. • I accept Zelle, Venmo, or cash • Discounts are available for payment upfront
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How long are the programs? What’s the time commitment?Weekly sessions are 75 minutes long, typically over 8 sessions (a two-month commitment). This gives time for real, lasting transformation.
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What are your qualifications? Why should I trust you with this deep work?I’ve been coaching and helping women for over 15 years. I have a Master’s Degree in Education, I’m certified in Holistic Health, and I’ve trained in Somatic Healing and Inner Child Work. I’ve also gone through my own deep healing including recovery from hidden alcohol dependency, burnout, and rebuilding my life from the inside out. This isn’t just something I learned in a book it’s something I’ve lived. I bring honesty, real tools, and a lot of heart to this work. If you’re ready to go deep, I’ll meet you there and walk with you the whole way.
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What if I don’t have childhood trauma? Why would I need this work?You don’t need to have a big, obvious trauma to have a survival pattern. Patterns can form from things as simple as not feeling heard, being the “good girl,” or growing up around stress or silence. This work is for anyone who feels stuck, anxious, disconnected, or like they’re always trying to prove something. If you’ve ever felt like you're on autopilot, this work can help you get back to yourself.
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I don’t feel comfortable talking badly about my parents or how I was raised. Is that a problem?Not at all. We don’t blame or bash parents here ever. This work isn’t about throwing anyone under the bus. It’s about understanding the patterns you picked up in childhood, not judging the people who raised you. Most of our caregivers were doing the best they could with what they knew. And even in loving homes, we can still form emotional survival patterns, it’s just how the nervous system works. The goal isn’t blame. It’s freedom.
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Do I need to believe in “energy” or be spiritual to do this? I’m not into Woo-Woo.Nope. You don’t need to be spiritual, meditate, or believe in energy work. This coaching is grounded in nervous system science, childhood development, emotional patterning, and practical tools. You just need to be curious, open, and ready to do the work.
✨ Free 1:1 Sessions for New Clients
For a limited time, I’m offering a complimentary private coaching session to new clients.
This is your chance to work with me one-on-one so we can uncover what’s been holding you back, help your nervous system feel safe, and give you tools you can use right away.
Spots are limited, so grab yours today.
